Tips and Resources for Building Self-Esteem

Welcome to a Safe Space

If you're here, it might mean you're on a journey to find yourself again—or maybe for the very first time. Trust me, I know what that feels like. Struggling with self-esteem isn’t just about how you see yourself; it’s about how the world makes you feel like you’re not enough. But let me tell you something: you are.

I built this space because I know how isolating it can feel when you don’t love the person staring back at you in the mirror. Here, I want to share tips and resources that have helped me and others find confidence, piece by piece. No pressure, no judgment—just love and understanding.

Tips to Start Building Self-Esteem

1. Speak to Yourself Like You Would a Friend
   Think about it—would you ever talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself when you're feeling low? Probably not. Start by replacing harsh words with kind ones, even if it feels weird at first. Instead of “I’m not good enough,” try saying, “I’m growing, and that’s okay.”

2. Celebrate Small Wins
   Sometimes, just getting out of bed or making it through a tough day is a victory. Celebrate those moments. It’s the little steps that lead to big changes.

3. Surround Yourself with Positivity
   Whether it’s the people you hang around, the content you consume online, or even the art on your walls—everything you interact with should pour into you, not drain you. That’s why I created Branded by Society, to give you reminders of your worth every day.

4. Journal Your Feelings
   Writing down your thoughts can help you figure out what’s really going on inside. Plus, it’s a way to talk to yourself without any outside noise. Even if it’s messy or you don’t know where to start, just write.

5. Practice Saying “No”
   People-pleasing can destroy your self-esteem because you’re putting everyone else above yourself. Saying “no” doesn’t make you a bad person; it makes you someone who values their time and energy.

Resources That Helped Me

Books:
You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown

Podcasts:
The Confidence Chronicles by Erika Cramer
Therapy for Black Girls (even if you’re not Black or a girl, the insights are incredible).

Apps:
I Am: A daily affirmation app.
Headspace: For meditation and mindfulness.

You’re Not Alone
I’m not here to tell you that this journey will be quick or easy. There are still days I struggle, but I’ve learned to be patient with myself. If no one else has told you today: you are worthy, you are enough, and you deserve all the love and light life has to offer.

I hope this page gives you a starting point or even just a little spark of hope. Remember, self-esteem isn’t about becoming someone else—it’s about discovering and embracing the person you already are.

Let’s grow together,
Someone who’s been there